It’s my birthday. Today. And I’m turning 33. While the world is on it’s head, the populous is banished from the streets and we cannot move for Carol Baskin memes; humble little me is celebrating another year of life. I am grateful for another wonderful year with my family; a year of big decisions, plans and milestones (and some pretty tough times to boot). But I won’t launch into a flashback scene here, because today we’re looking forward. Well, a little looking back actually…at what I’ve learned and can take forward. Little nuggets and revelations I’ve managed to hoard along the way. They may sound like cliches, but I’ve put lots of thought into each point and genuinely feel strongly about each one of them. So, I thought I would share them in a concise and (hopefully) self-explanatory summary:
- True happiness comes from within. Genuinely.
- The small things really are the big things.
- You will never feel as old as your driver’s licence says you are.
- Aging is a privilege and should be treasured, not feared.
- People will love you more for being unapologetically yourself than for trying to fit in.
- It also doesn’t matter if not everyone loves you.
- It’s better to be hated for what you are than loved for what you are not.
- You will always be talked about, so do the thing anyway.
- But! people aren’t talking about you nearly as much as you think they are.
- It’s easier to be kind that to be rude.
- Body confidence is worth far more than any number on the scale.
- Food is delicious – eat the food.
- Almost everything will be just a memory within a year.
- Nothing is ever as bad as the fear of the thing.
- Worrying doesn’t change the outcome.
- Your health is absolutely everything and without it nothing else matters.
- Whether you have too much or not enough, money will always cause problems.
- No one else’s grass will ever look greener if you focus on watering your own.
- Your perception of yourself is completely different to how others see you.
- Not everyone has to agree with you.
- Debate is healthy, but contentions are not.
- Staying silent for the sake of inner peace is not a sign of weakness.
- The nostalgic tranquillity we long for is a trickery of the mind.
- A true act of kindness needs no adulation.
- Everything is relative and you’re entitled to your feelings.
- Nobody can make you feel bad without your permission.
- You talk to yourself far more than anyone else ever will – be kind.
- Living truly and fully in the moment is the most rewarding thing you can do for yourself.
- It’s never too late to change or to learn something new.
- Hobbies are good for the soul – do things you can’t do and learn how to do them.
- Taking responsibility is the first step toward a positive change.
- You’re entitled to nothing but almost anything can be earned.
And last but by no means least:
- Mindset is everything. What we think we become. “The mind has a powerful way of attracting things that are in harmony with it, good and bad.” (Idowu Koyenikan.)
When I came up with the idea for this post, I thought I might struggle to fill 33 points with any form of profundity, but once I sat down and began to write I could have continued ad infinitum with an endless ream of quotes and phrases that capture how I feel about life. I hope it doesn’t sound too evangelical to say, but I can fervently imagine how different this list would have been 10 years ago; truly with age comes clarity and perspective. But, having said all of that, I will never lose my humour, playfulness and youthful absurdity, so check back in 20 years and we’ll see where we are ….
I’d love to hear what is on your list of life lessons too – so drop a comment down below with anything you agreed with (or didn’t) and what you might add.
And as always right now – Stay Home and Stay Safe x